"Most decisions become wrong because of either saying YES too soon or saying NO too late", this was a text message forwarded by  a friend and I believe it.  Sometimes however,  we only can tell that a  time is  right after it  pass as if we don't have  a choice.  The truth is, we always have a choice.  It's just that the choice is either being wrong and happy or being happy yet feeling sorry.

      Shall I then choose being wrong yet happy?  Everything depends on whose perspective one may take.   We can only look at things from two sides and both sides will say that a thing is wrong or right depending on the perspective we are looking at.  It is really difficult to make a decision and because it is difficult, whatever it is, the best thing is we have to be prepared for the price we may have to pay for the decision we make. 

    Technology may have gone so far that communication and decision making  is now within at the tip of our finger,  but we still  can not get away with papers, including pre-conceived ideas based on papers.  And just as not everything true is worth writing, not all that is written and perceived helpful will actually be useful.

    A lot of things were decided based on merits vouched by "papers"  and then in the end, decision turned out as  another lesson to learn from.  When are we going to learn?   In choosing between qualified candidates, selection should go beyond what the candidate is capable to do based on "papers" he can present.  Not everyone who has that paper can really do what is vouched  by that paper and not having that paper does not mean one can not do better.

     In an old song there was this line "time heals broken hearts".  Wish its true.   No matter how hard we try to bury a painful past, once it is touched, there really is something that still hurts.  Maybe this is  because while we want to bury the pain, we can not bury the joys associated with the pain.  And so the better way is just dance with the beat until broken heart "regenerates cells?".  Afterall, its not only strength and perseverance that  count  but the fun of coping as things come along.

     Of course coping itself is not also simple to a point that even a song can make us both cry and smile.  Speaking of an experience as weird as this, here is the lyrics of a song which makes me feel like crying but at same time happy each time I hear it .....

                                            This I Promise You

                          When the visions around you bring tears to your eyes

                          And all that surround you are secrets and lies

                          I'll be your strength, I'll give you hope

                          Keeping your faith when its gone

                          The one you should call was standing here all along ...

                          And I will take you in my arms

                          And hold you right where you belong

                          Till the day my life is through ... this I promise you.  This I promise you

                          I've loved you forever in lifetimes before

                          And I promise you never will you hurt anymore

                          I give you my word, I give you my heart

                          This is a battle we've won.   And with this vow,  forever has now begun

                          Just close your eyes each loving day know this feeling won't go away

                          Till the day my life is through.... this  I promise you.  This I promise you

                          Over and over I fall.  When I hear you call

                          Without you in my life baby I just would'nt be living at all

                          And I will take you in my arms and hold you right where you belong

                          Till the day my life is through.  This I promise you baby

                          Just close your eyes each loving day

                          Know this feeling won't go away

                          Every word I say is true.  This I promise you. 

                          Every word I say is true.  This I promise you. 

                          Ooh I promise you